In one of the trans groups I follow on Facebook, there was a discussion about cis people in drag costumes for Halloween. For those of us who are trans, it's easy to look at something like that and take offense to it. It can look like a mockery of the struggles we go through (Rain herself talked about this a bit, way back in the Halloween chapter).
But it's not always the case. If you see someone in drag, try to keep in mind: maybe it's NOT drag. I'd like to share the story I told there.
About ten years ago, long before I started transition, I went as a "girl" to a Halloween party. It was the first time I presented female among my friend group, and I did this to test the waters in a setting that made it okay. I played it off like I was just "a guy in drag" all night (making it acceptable to them), and at the time, no one was any the wiser. I'm shy so I wasn't really making a scene, but I was overplaying it a little, so I might've been unwittingly offensive at the time (I still ha